The question was asked and you said yes. Congratulations on your engagement!
It is an incredibly exciting time for you, your fiancé, and your families. Like many newly engaged couples though, you may now find yourself asking the question, “What do I need to do first?” Here are some of my thoughts on the important first steps you and your fiancé should take as you begin your journey to the alter:
Take Care Of The Ring – Your engagement ring is an important symbol of your love and should therefore be protected. For this reason, an appropriate starting point is to have the ring resized (if needed) and to get the ring insured. Insurance can be purchased as an extension to your homeowners or renters insurance policy. Specialized jewelry insurance options are also available that can, in some cases, provide more coverage than your existing insurance policy would allow. Although the sentimental value of your ring is priceless, protecting its monetary value will at least provide a replacement of its symbolism should anything happen to the ring in the future.
Set the Date –Once news of your engagement spreads, a frequently asked question you should be prepared to answer is, “When’s the wedding?” Although you do not need to set the exact date early on, you should begin narrowing down your wedding month or season in the early weeks of your engagement. Doing so provides a catchall response to this question, and will also help you envision some of the larger elements (and maybe even some smaller details) of your wedding. Alternatively, knowing some of your wedding details may dictate the date or season based on availability. In either case, knowing ‘when’ is one of the first big wedding decisions you and your fiancé will need to make.
Dream Big – Live by the motto “Read it, Love it, Pin it.” Start browsing the wedding blogs and websites in search of inspiration and wedding styles (some suggestions are listed below), pick up the latest wedding magazines at your local bookstore, and post your ideas and inspiration to your wedding Pintrest board. Do not let a budget hinder your inspiration at this point. It’s important to dream big and know your wedding style before you embark on your vendor search. Being able to communicate your vision and the details you love is incredibly valuable and will serve you well as you dive deeper into the planning process.
Get Organized – Create an initial wedding plan or task list to follow early on. It doesn’t need to be a detailed timeline leading up to your wedding day… at least not yet. Rather, your initial wedding plan should include some of the major tasks or milestones you know you need to be accomplish early on, one of which may very well be ‘Hire a Wedding Planner’. Most important on your list of things to do is to establish your wedding budget. Have the conversation with your fiancé and your families early on. Although it can be a stressful and tense conversation to have, understanding who is contributing and how much is a critical first step in the process.
Spend Some Time Just Being Engaged – It is easy to be swept away by the wedding plans, which is why it is important to carve out some time to just enjoy being engaged. Plan a weekend getaway, have a night out on the town, or curl up on the couch for a movie night. Whatever the choice, put talk of the wedding to the side and make the evening, weekend, or vacation a time for you and your fiancé to just be yourselves, happy, and in love. There is plenty of time to worry about flowers and favors. The first few weeks of your engagement should not be one of them.
Congratulations again on your engagement and Happy Planning!